Active listening is a way of listening to and interacting with
another person that improves interpersonal understanding. Rather than listening
with one ear, while watching and thinking about something else, active listening
requires the listener to give the speaker his or her complete attention. The
listener then repeats in his or her own words what the speaker just said. This
assures the speaker that the person listening has really paid attention and has
understood. The listener does not have to agree with the speaker—he or she only
needs to understand what the other person believes or feels. Only after this is
done should the listener explain what he or she thinks or feels.
Active listening improves communication in several ways. First, it allows the
immediate correction of misunderstandings. Second, it tends to open people up,
encouraging them to tell more. If two people are in conflict, the tendency is
for each one to contradict or deny what the other person says. This tends to
make people defensive, and they either become aggressive or withdraw. They do
not continue to talk openly if they are attacked for doing so. If, however, they
feel like someone is really listening with open ears and an open mind, they are
likely to explain more about how they feel and why. This often reveals
information about underlying interests and needs that allows the conflict to be
resolved.Consider the following scenario:
Child:
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I don't want to do my homework. It's dumb!
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Parent:
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No, it's not. It's important that you learn math so that you
can do well in school and get into a good college.
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Child:
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I don't care how I do in school. I hate school! Leave me
alone!
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