The first step toward constructive anger management, according
to Gary Hankins, author of Prescription for Anger, is developing improved
self-awareness. The more you are able to identify and predict what situations
make you angry and how you typically respond, the more you will be able to
modify your response to make it constructive. "Anger management is NOT the
process of avoiding or eliminating anger, rather it is the process of using your
self-awareness to make your anger work for you, rather than against you"
(Hankins 1988, 139). If you understand what typically makes you
angry, people will not be able to "push your buttons" or knock you off balance.
You will be prepared for any tricks they might try and will have a preplanned
effective response to most anger-provoking situations. Even when anger hits you
by surprise, such self-awareness can help you respond in a more effective way,
as you become aware of what you are doing and how that will affect your opponent
and your relationship overall.
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